Saturday, January 26, 2013

Serving Your Spouse?

Are you blessed with a great spouse? What about a good spouse? Either way, there are often so many underlying blessings that we miss in life, that we are too stubborn to see how much God has truly given us.

Have a great partner and soul mate by your side means a lot, the question is, how well are you are grooming that relationship? I am not talking about grooming it to get what you want, but grooming it and showing that person how much you love them and value them.

Do you thank God for them? If not, you should. Let me tell you a story.

God Gave Me You 

Have you heard this song entitled, "God Gave Me You"? If not, it's a great one, and it's one that bears repeating even if you are talking about a great friend that has helped you tremendously in life. 

God gives us just what we need when and only when we trust in Him. This doesn't mean that God doesn't bless us when we don't, but when we do full out trust Him, He loves to bless his children. 

I was in Sam's Club the other day when I heard a woman strolling through the store bragging to her friend about how she just back from Bali, and how great it was, and how bored she was at home. I am not sure what was being said on the other end of the phone, but what she said came out like this. 

"All he does is work all the time, and he is never hear. We just got back from vacation and he has two big meetings to attend all of the time. I wish he would just put me first....", so forth and so on. 


It was okay that he took you to an expensive vacation in Bali, but now that you are home, all you are doing is complaining about the job that paid for your vacation and how he puts his job first. What if he didn't have that job that provides and enables you to stay home with your kids? 

What if he were lazy and hanging out in bars all night? Okay, here is my thought. Be thankful. Be grateful and happy, focusing on the things you have in life. Everything good comes from God, we know this. There are some thorns in the flesh that come to us from God too. 

So, while many others might be thankful in an economy like this, she was ranting and raving about something that is so important. A livelihood, his ability to provide for the family and so on. Being a stay at home is tough work, it's a full-time job, but just thinking about the money aspect, which for her was the big deal since he works a lot, gave her what she thought she wanted. 

Now that she has it, she is still NOT happy. 

The more of the story is that in marriage, both spouses should serve each other without fail. Love isn't 50/50, it's 100/100. Giving yourself to another human is always risky, and just so you know. human fulfillment is only temporary, and it's in our higher fulfillment that we really get what we need. 

So my friends, until next time, dance like no one is watching, and love as though you have never been hurt. Live courageously

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