Gossip is like a cancer, and it's killing families, friends, and worst of all our children.It seems that people have a real gift for talking about others rather than talking to others; the end result is devastating.
No matter who is doing the talking, it can be devastating, and the end result can be a lack of trust and love between family members as well as between friends.
It can feel like the whole world is crashing down when those you believe are the most supportive of you really aren't.
This is why we all need to make a concerted effort to put an end to gossip. We often don't realize the ramifications it can have, but it's something that we shouldn't be doing at all-PERIOD.
Why People Gossip
There really isn't a reason need as to WHY people need to gossip, but there are reasons that people do it. Oftentimes, I find that people do it to make themselves feel better about themselves.Many times people just have the itch to tell something they have heard, and the thing is, they don't even know if it's true. You can read all of the psychological mumbo jumbo you want, but in reality the reason for gossip is usually to feed this need to feel better than others or to try and elevate ourselves above others.
This really isn't the same as sharing stories or memories folks, this is backstabbing and talking about others that aren't present. You can call it what you want, but the reality is that people are so busy filling voids in their own lives that they lose sight of how they are hurting others in the process.
So, how can we make a courageous effort to STOP gossiping?
It would be wise for us to:
- Talk to others directly
- Ask questions if curiosity is really there
- Always respect others enough to ask if it's okay to ask
- Pray for others and let them know we are available if they have a need
There isn't any reason that we should be gossiping about others, and it's time that we took a stand as adults to show our children a better example of how to act and live with one another.
Be Courageous!
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